Self confidence is a tricky thing, if you have it then you can often get labelled as ‘cocky’ or ‘full of yourself’ but it’s ridiculous. I think self confidence shows that you’ve got control over your life, that you know who you are and you’re happy with it which is something to be proud of. Unfortunately a lot of people lack self confidence these days because society tell us that we aren’t good enough. I’m here to tell you that you are.
The secret to having self confidence is to be honest with yourself. If you pretend to be something or someone you’re not then you’ll never be confident in who you really are so get honest and get real with yourself.
Once you’ve acknowledged who you are you need to figure out what you want from life, do you want a thriving career, a big happy family, to give as much back to charity as you can or something else? Write this down so you don’t forget it, it’s important!
Now you know what you want from life, but what about the other stuff? What makes you happy, what puts a smile on your face as soon as you start doing it? For me that’s blogging. Find out what your ‘thing’ is and do it more often!
Appreciate yourself, I’ll bet that you’ve got some great characteristics that you don’t give yourself enough credit for and you really should do. If it helps, ask a friend to point out some of your strengths but it’ll work best if you acknowledge them yourself so sit down with a cup of coffee *or a glass of wine* and write down your strengths. It could be anything from ‘I always buy a cup of coffee for a homeless person in my town’ or ‘I’m always there for my friends no matter what they need’ or even something you’re great at with your job. Keep hold of this this and refer back to it whenever you doubt yourself because you’re pretty damn great!
My final tip is to stop taking yourself so seriously, lighten up and have a laugh at yourself! Did you say something embarrassing in a work meeting? Who cares! You probably made the meeting more enjoyable for your co-workers! Did you fail your driving test? Who cares! Lots and lots of people do and it doesn’t make you any worse of a driver so get back to your lessons and try again! It’s so important to be able to laugh at yourself and it’ll make you much more pleasant to be around if you do so stop worrying so much about the little things.
Self confidence is a really personal thing so I can’t just sit here and tell you exactly what to do to improve yours but these things should all help you get on track. If you’d like to discuss this further please reach out to me either on Twitter or by sending me a direct email – firstname.lastname@example.org.