Anxiety is something that a LOT of people struggle with unfortunately. It’s a horrible thing to have to deal with and it’s even worse when it holds you back from doing fun things. That’s why I’ve spent the past few years finding out the best way to manage my anxiety before an event to ensure I make the most of it without my anxiety getting in the way. The most recent event I went to was the Fashion through the ages event which I really enjoyed because I did these things beforehand. I got the inspiration for this post from Billie at www.billiegeena.co.uk so I hope she doesn’t mind me posting this!
Plan, plan, plan
I’m a lover of all thing organised so it brings me a lot of peace knowing that I’ve planned everything beforehand. I like to plan how I’m going to get there, my route, where I’ll park if I’m driving as well as who I’m going with. I also like to know exactly what I’ll be wearing and how I’m going to wear my hair & make-up. For some people, this amount of planning might be stressful but it’s often the only way I can relax before an event.
Look at the guest list
I like to find out who will be going to the event if possible so I can have a little chat with them online before I go, especially if I’m going somewhere on my own, it makes me feel like I’ve got a familiar face to see.
Allow lots of extra time
Being late is one of the most stressful things to me so, to cut out that factor I always try to set off earlier than I need to so there’s no danger of being late. I also think it’s VERY rude to be late so I try to prevent that anyway
The night before
The night before an event I always make sure I’ve got everything prepared by making sure my clothes are ironed and my bag is all packed. After everything is prepped I put on a face mask, light a candle and either put on a chick flick or pick up my book to distract myself for the evening. I like to have an early night to make sure I’ve had plenty of sleep which helps reduce my anxiety.
The morning of the event
I try to start the day off on a good note with a good cup of coffee and a healthy breakfast before getting ready. I make sure my phone is fully charged before I leave the house and make sure my beta blockers* are in my handbag in case I need them.
At the event
When I get to the event, I take a moment outside to take a deep breath and clear my mind before walking in. I always find myself making a mental note of the exits which is something I now just let myself do then force myself to speak to somebody. Even if it’s just at the bar ordering a drink or saying hello to a random person, this contact helps me to calm down further.
By this point I’m usually calm enough to enjoy the event which is a huge step forward compared to what I was like 2 years ago. I’m very proud of the progress I’ve made with my anxiety but unfortunately it is something that will always be with me so that’s why I’ve put systems in place to make these situations easier for myself. If you struggle with something like this and would like to chat about it/ ask any questions please reach out to me! You can either leave me a comment, DM me on Twitter or send me an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
*My beta blockers are prescribed for my anxiety. I just take one if I feel like I can’t get control over my anxiety and it slows down my heart to a manageable rate. I personally find them very helpful, if you think this could be of help to you then I would advise to speak to your GP about it.